Mini Daschund Having Major Tantrums HELP!!

Question:
 Hi, Ok I need some help, my little Romal (pure bred Mini Dashund) has had a very spoiled life and is now having to endure some changes, unfortunatley we are all clashing,,, and I dont know what to do. He is now 10 months old I have had him for 1 month. He was raised with his Mother and Father - and a Tan Female until I got him. Next to my children he is my love .. yet.. I wasnt working nor was my boyfriend so he was with the both of us all the time. We just recently have had to both go back to work. Now we are having some issues ,,, 1. He poops in the kids rooms on a regular basis- in the middle of the night.. this after being taken outside- often there a door open for him to go in and out of... Not sure how to break that one 2. My boyfriend would never discipline him so now he wont listen to me at all.. and is always at his side,., this breaks my heart... 3. the first time we left him alone was only for a few hours and he was fine so we tried for our full shift and he ripped up carpet... so we put him in the bathroom with food toys and bed - ( he ate the blanket to shreds) and the sweater hanging that was forgotten. The second time it was the bedding we left in there.. he has a thing for material loves to eat and shred it... whats with that? 4. Now when i come home - I am always the first home - (remember that I am the only one disciplining) he comes out of the bathroom and goes straight under the bed.. I have to coax him out. HE IS VERY SUBMISSIVE- rolls on his tummy the minute you give him a dirty look.. I know this is long winded but not sure what to do- looking into a kennel
Answer:
 Honestly, if you were to call me with this issue - or so many issues that are precursors to a dog becoming a fear biter and also one heck of a confused dog - I would HIGHLY recommend that you not even attempt to work through these issues on line. This dog is in desperate need of a good trainer or even behaviorist coming into the house and doing one on one with you and those living there. An evaluation of the living situation both physical and mental for the dog, gives ideas on reducing the stress level for the dog (stress and anxiety are the biggest issues I see of why dogs "act out" - they have NO idea what to do so they react because they do not understand) and then reworking solidly how the dog and house are managed. This can be a lengthy process depending on how much damage to the dog is done and how serious the humans living with the dog are willing to change THEIR behavior for the benefit of the dog. In extreme cases where the owners are obviously not willing to put forth the time and effort for the benefit of the dog, I am bluntly honest with what will probaboy happen down the road and recommend the dog being turned over to a breed rescue for rehabilitation and rehoming. Now, that said, you have a LOT to think about. Working out serious issues on line is a timebomb. Why? I cannot see how you are managing the dog to give feedback. If you are not doing somethign right, the dog is going to be worse off. Direct assistance is vital and NO good trainer or behaviorist will work with major issues on line. Go to http://www.APDT.com and see if there is a trainer near you. I also want you to go to: http://www.dogwise.comand order Donaldson, Jean - Culture Clash Rugaa, Turid - Calming Signals Just to start. Also go to http://www.k9deb.com/nilif and start this program Destress the dog, change the environmental stressors in the home, explain to boyfriend why he is helping create a veryt dangerous situation, get a trainer in who is good with these issues to work one on one and if you are not willing to do any of these, please, the dog needs a home that is willing to give him what is needed structurally, emotionally and behaviorally.
Answer:
 ???I appreciate your comments - Never did I think this was a extremley seriuos issues. As I said that I have only had him for just over a month- and had a very undiscplined life before and very spoiled. I have had discussions with my boyfriend - we are making a serious adjustment. He is moving out - not for this reason but thats a different story. My biggest issue with him is the ripping up the carpets and pooping in the house he lived in a place where cleaniness wasnt enforced how do i battle 10 months of behavior learned so ya I have to discpline (no hitting him) so every night when i come home he thinks he is trouble this is caused from his previus home and I am trying to correct now other than that a very pampered pup- he is having tantrums about being alone ,, he has never been alone in his life.... as I said looking into the Crate Training ... and NO I am in Canada your sites dont apply to me ps... Happy to report when i got home that there was nothing destroyed tonight and had a happy pup - and he was praised like nothing before,,,